To Dare is great but to bear is Greater

Let me share someone's life history with you.

There was a man who failed in business at the age of 21;
was defeated in a legislative race at the age 22;
failed again in business at the age of 24;
overcame the death of his sweatheart at the age of 26;
had a nervous breakdown at the age of 27;
lost a congressial race at the age of 34;
lost a senatorial race at thr age of 45;
failed in an effort to become vice-president at the age of 47;
lost a senetorial race at 49 and was elected President of United States at age 52.

The man was Abraham Lincoln.

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.

Tips to improve Self Esteem In Children

Set A Role Model
Try to set a role model for your child to follow. This would enable your child to know the ideal characteristics that a person must have or he must aim to adopt. It is not necessary that the role model is a celebrity or a politician; you can also try to place yourself or any of your family members as a role model for your child to learn what’s right and what’s wrong.

Appreciation Is A Must
Keep telling your child whatever you like about him or his behavior. This would motivate him to improve his performance and make a better attempt. Remember that appreciation is not necessarily given on big things only; even small doings of your child can be appreciated. Make sure even the other family members also appreciate the child in the similar way on his achievements and other activities.

Avoid Unnecessary Criticisms
Try to encourage your child on every thing possible like his dressing sense, cleaning of the room, good handwriting, performance in sport activities etc. Unnecessary criticisms can lower his self esteem and make him feel nervous and hesitant in taking up a task. Even if he fails in a particular task it is your utmost responsibility to teach him to learn from his failures. Keep a track on your child so that he does not loose his self confidence after experiencing a failure in life.

Setting Goals May Help

Allow your child to set goals for himself and direct his efforts towards the attainment of those goals. See to it that your child starts with small targets in the beginning and slowly move to the higher ones. You can also lay certain challenges in front of your child to accept and chase. These targets can be in academic terms, social terms or even psychological terms.

Apart from the above ways you can also aim to improve your relation and understanding with your child so that you can easily keep a note of your child’s performance. Being friendly and affectionate would reduce the communication gap between you and your kid. As a result of this you can be a friend for your child to support him in all ups and downs and also keep a check on his performance.

How Parents Can Help Their Kids Overcome SHYNESS

If your little one always seems to be standing apart from their classmates it may be a sign that they need your help. All parents want their kids to be happy and popular, so if your child finds it difficult to make friends, what can you do?

Parents worry that intervening might put pressure on their child, but that doing nothing will make the situation worse. Some children have more difficulty in social situations than others. While some lack confidence and feel too shy to approach their peers to start games, other children have difficulty with social skills and don’t know what to do in certain situations.

If your child doesn’t have many friends, it’s important to talk to them. It is equally important parents to talk to their child’s teacher to see if they have noticed any difficulties.

Although the problem is often simply shyness, classmates may think that your child is being unfriendly. Shy children are often mistakenly perceived by others as being aloof and stand-offish. Often children who are happiest are those with a good circle of friends. Friendships are important in terms of your child’s adjustment and emotional development.

How to help
First, make sure there actually is a problem. Some children are more comfortable having just one or two friends and it might be you who wants them to have lots of pals. Some children might prefer to sit on the sidelines and watch others. If they’re happy, try not to worry about it too much.

Check their hearing. Even a slight hearing problem can affect your child’s ability to interact. In addition, around one in 10 children has speech or language difficulties, which can also hold them back when making friends.

Ask your child what is worrying them. If they’re concerned that another child will laugh or be mean to them if they try to make friends, ask if that’s really going to happen. Help challenge their negative thoughts.

Many shy children are drawn to make friends with another shy child, which is fine, but also encourage them to make friends with a child who’s a little more confident and has some skills they can learn from. Encourage them to take the lead when you’re playing games with them at home, perhaps by explaining the rules to you. That will encourage them to take the lead with other children.

Invite a child in your son or daughter’s class to play. Try to find a child with similar interests as it will give them common ground and help them to play together. While your child plays with another child, provide a kind of commentary and talk about the good things they’re doing as a way of reinforcing good behaviour.

If the children are playing well together say, ‘I love the way you two help each other out,’. It will encourage the child to behave that way again.

Once your child is happy with playing with one other child, the next step is to invite a small group of children to play at your house, or for your child to play at someone else’s house. Praise your child if they are making progress, but don’t go over the top. A smile or a wink is often enough.

If your child has significant social problems that affect their everyday life, then you may consider professional help.

BANISH THEIR FEAR OF PARTIES
While most children adore birthday parties, if your little one doesn’t have any friends it can be a terrible ordeal. And with many primary school kids inviting the whole class to their birthday parties, there could be one almost every weekend.

But letting your child avoid them won’t help in the long-term as they’ll never realise that parties aren’t as scary as they thought. Talk to your child about what you can do to make parties easier for them. Perhaps you could stay at the party with them, or wait until they are paired off with another child. If they have one particular friend, call the child’s mother and suggest they go together.

ADVICE FOR LONELY TEENAGERS
Older kids might be surprisingly willing to co-operate if you bring the subject up with them. On one hand they can just refuse to do things but on the other they might be more motivated to overcome it because they realise they have to do something about it.

Ask your teenager what’s stopping them from making friends. Some might not be sure what to talk about with their peers, so brainstorm ideas with them, such as what they watch on TV.

Remind them of times when they did really well in social situations.

Encourage them to take up an activity that interests them – it will help them meet others with the same interests. Team sports such as football are good, as they don’t have to talk much, which can stop them feeling awkward. It’s also a good way to meet people with shared interests, and teams are good for bonding.

If your teenager isn’t sporty, there are plenty of other ways they can meet like-minded people in a group situation such as a chess or computer club.

Five Reasons Which Cause Anger

Unfairness - We believe that we have been treated unfairly. We tell ourselves that we deserve more, and we buy into this story that someone has wronged us.

Lost - We feel that we have lost something that we have identified ourselves with. Feelings, pride, money, car, job.

Blame - We blame other people or external situations for having caused our loss, for taking advantage of us unfairly. The blame often only resides in our heads and is a product of our imagination. We fail to see things from other people’s perspectives. We become deeply selfish.

Pain - We experience pain, mental distress, and anxiety. The pain causes physical responses in our body, which disturbs our natural energy flow and state of wellbeing.

Focus - We focus on the thing we don’t want, and energize it by complaining about it passionately, and repeating it to as many people who will listen. This creates a downward spiral of anger. “What we focus on expands”, this is true regardless of the emotion.

Thought for the day

A MAN WITHOUT IMAGINATION

IS LIKE A BIRD WITHOUT WINGS....

Dream Deep, for every dream precedes the goal!! (Determination)

Ever try to put the skids on an ant? Its virtually impossible.

They never stop.

Put one to the test some day. Pretend you are five years old again, and make a little hill in the ant's path. The ant will walk up and over the top without braking. It will go into a hole, over a log, through grass. If it can't go through, it will go around. An ant will never turn around and walk the other way, no matter what obstacles are in its path.

Try applying that kind of tenacity to your life. Of Course, you'll want to use your brain too. But in the determination department, be an ant. Refuse to be stopped. Keep going, and learn as you go.

People who patiently persist, finally see their dreams come true.

10 Powerful Meditation Techniques and TipsBy Michaiel Bovenes

Meditation is a powerful way to reduce stress, feel better and develop inner peace. You can become more conscious of your truer self. Meditations' true purpose is to shift your consciousness from the outer world to your inner world, where all change begins. Meditation offers you a way to create a pause in your daily activity to consciously connect with your inner power. Here are ten tips I teach new students.

1. Establish a quiet space to meditate. Find a comfortable room in which you are going to meditate regularly, especially in the beginning as you are learning to relax and quiet your mind.

2. Select a meditation chair. Do not lie down and try and meditate on your bed, unless you want to fall asleep. Your subconscious mind associates your bed with sleep. So find a couch or designate a special chair that you will meditate in.

3. Find a meditation time when you will least likely be disturbed. If the kids come home from school at 3:30, don't try and meditate at 4PM. Rather choose a time when you will be interruption free as much as possible. Please turn off the ringer on your phones. If you receive a call when you are meditating you can return it later.
4. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Repeat this 5-10 times. You can mentally repeat the words "relax" as you exhale.

5. Meditation is a mental function that has many physical forms. Meditation can take the form of long distance running, gazing into a fireplace (while there is a fire burning, of course), sunbathing at the beach, Tai-Chi and, even weight-lifting are some common examples of moving meditations. These forms allow your thoughts to slow down and your mind to become reflective. We all have the capacity to train our minds to have the same effect without running ten miles or driving to the beach. Moving meditations do have one draw back, the individual must still give attention to the physical world, thus reducing the clarity and guidance that would otherwise be there if they were to close their eyes and shift their full attention inward. So don't worry about being perfectly still.

6. Relax your Eyes. We project an enormous amount of energy through our eyes. When you desire to relax your body, start with your eyes. A great way to relax the tiny muscles in and around your eyes is to do this exercise. Keeping your eyes closed simply lift them up, then look down, then look to the right and then to the left, holding for 5-10 seconds in each position to stretch your eye muscles, then allow them to softly go back to center.

7. Relax your tongue. If your tongue is pressed against the roof of your mouth or behind your front teeth, then you are in the mind-frame for speaking which is not a meditative state. When you relax your tongue and allow it to go back into the center of your mouth, your mind will slow down your thinking process. Try it right now. Let close your eyes and relax your tongue and notice how your mind subtly shifts into a more relaxed state.

8. Visualization versus Imagination. If you can't visualize in your minds eye, don't worry. Imagination includes all of your five senses to communicate to your body. It might be easier for you to imagine the smell of the ocean and hear the sounds in your mind. Imagining the smell and sounds can be easier for some then visualizing. Your imagination is very powerful, so learn to use it.

9. Scan your body for tension. Mentally take an inventory of your physical body and where you tend to hold onto stress. If it is in your shoulders, it is ok to tighten them, holding for a moment and then relax them. This is called progressive relaxation and can help break the bond of tension in your body. Scan your body and those tight areas flex and relax while you breath slowly repeating the word "relax" with your exhale.

10. A good way to relax those pesky thoughts. Don't be frustrated as you begin learning to meditate. It is natural to have many thoughts come to you when you're learning to meditate. An example... If you worry about a report due at work while meditating, don't fight it. Listen to your inner concerns and then release it. If you can't stop your mind from thinking (I have to finish that report by Tuesday morning), simply take in a deep breath and as you exhale imagine your blowing that thought out of your head. Perhaps see the words written on a chalk board and imagine you are blowing the message off the board with your exhale. Or imagine you are erasing it. This gives the subconscious mind a very clear message.

On a spiritual level... learning how to meditate offers a ritual to commune with your Soul to receive guidance, healing and wisdom from within.

On a mental level... meditation will bring you clarity and can reveal deeper understanding about the way you're living you life, and what thoughts and beliefs are holding you back.

On an emotional level... meditating offers a way to get in touch with your feelings and to resolve them constructively producing profound inner peace.

On a physical level... meditation is a stress reducer, as you practice it on a regular basis, you will renew your physical energy and stamina. The siesta times many countries honor is a great way to bring balance back into a busy life-style, even if it's only a 15 minute meditation on your lunch break at work.

Michaiel Patrick Bovenes is a personal empowerment teacher and speaker and author. Since 1994, he's published a popular series of guided visualization meditations, called, "Soul-utions". Michaiel currently resides in San Francisco, CA and teaches throughout the USA and Canada. Receive Free Meditation MP3 Download at his website at: RelaxationMeditations.com
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What each kiss means!!!!!!!( All round personality)

Here is the additional information to improve your personality:

Kiss on the stomach “lets have sex”

Kiss on the Forehead “Forever you will be mine”

Kiss on the Ear “I’m horny”

Kiss on the Cheek “We’re friends”

Kiss on the Hand “I adore you”

Kiss on the Neck “We belong together”

Kiss on the Shoulder “I want you”

Kiss on the Lips “I love you” OR “I want you”

Holding Hands “We can learn to love each other”

Slap on the Butt “That’s mine”

Playing with the Ear “I can’t live without you”

Holding on tight “Don’t let go”

Looking into each other’s Eyes “Don’t leave me”

Playing with Hair on Head “Tell me you love me”

Arms around the Waist “I love you too much to let go”

Laughing while Kissing “I am completely Comfortable with you”

I am sue this would have enhance your personality a bit.

Teens Busy in Internet Surfing "Is Not a Waste of Time"(Personality Development)

Parents who always worried about the personality development and complain about their kids getting distracted and wasting time due to long hours spent on the internet can now take a breath of relief.

The most extensive US study undertaken to analyse the impact of digital media on the life of American teenagers reveals that the internet can actually prove beneficial for the youth.

“It might surprise parents to learn that it is not a waste of time for their teens to hang out online,” said Mizuko Ito, University of California, Irvine researcher and the report’s lead author

The $50 million study, funded by the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation, says that online activities like social networking, instant messaging etc. help the teens in developing social as well as technical skills that are in a way essential for the overall personality development.

As part of the study, Ito and his team of researchers conducted personal as well as group interviews of 800 teens and their parents over a period of three years. In addition to this, the researchers invested about 5000 hours tracking the most popular websites among teens like Facebook, MySpace, Youtube and a few others, wherein the researchers carefully observed all the teen activities on these sites. With a view to support their findings, researchers also conducted diary studies to figure out the ways and extent to which the American youth is involved with digital media.

“This study creates a baseline for our understanding of how young people are participating with digital media and what that means for their learning,” said Connie Yowell, Ph.D., Director of Education at the MacArthur Foundation

During their study, the researchers found two basic purposes for the teens to access various forms of digital media. The teens either had friendship-based purpose for 'hanging out' and staying connected with friends 24*7, or interest-based purpose for seeking relevant online information and communities which are relatively difficult to find elsewhere.

According to the report presented at the American Anthropological Association’s annual meeting held today, adults tend to be skeptical about the plausibility of internet usage by the youth only for fair and healthy purposes. The adults often seem to be negatively curious about what exactly the youth is doing online, therefore finding the digital media risky and unproductive for youth. Contrary to this, the study also suggested that today's youth is avid for acquiring knowledge and gaining expertise in diverse fields, and for this the teens remain awfully busy in navigating complex technical and social world by their online participation.

Hence, the conflicting adult and youth psychologies lead to a generation gap in how they view the value of online activity.

“This study creates a baseline for our understanding of how young people are participating with digital media and what that means for their learning,” said Connie Yowell, Ph.D., Director of Education at the MacArthur Foundation. “It concludes that learning today is becoming increasingly peer-based and networked, and this is important to consider as we begin to re-imagine education in the 21st century."

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Focus like Tiger Woods: Strategies to help you win

Ever wondered what is the link between Tiger Woods and his focus on the course. Tiger Woods is one of the greatest golfers on the PGA Tour today and possibly in the history of the game. Whether he’s competing on the golf course or running one of his many businesses, Tiger has learned to use the power of extreme focus and mind power in everything he does.

As the crowds gather around him on 18th green, Tiger’s determination and focus are obvious as he lines up his putt on the closing round of golf Sunday. He doesn’t bother to notice that his opponent is watching him like a hawk and the growing crowd is holding their collected breath in anticipation. He moves forward with purpose, lines up and sinks the 25-foot putt ... what seems like magic to most of us, is expected by him. If only the same kind of determination and focus could be learned and applied to life. Think of how many business deals would end successfully. How many more sales would you close? How many more relationships would you build? How many challenges would you be able to overcome? Well, maybe there is a way!

The following tips will not only help you sharpen your mental edge, but also help you cope with the challenges of work and everyday life. Here are a few strategies to help unleash the “Tiger” in you, on and off the golf course.

Breathe for clarity. When you find yourself in a challenging situation, whether it’s dealing with an unhappy client on the phone or feeling overwhelmed by a bad tee shot, this exercise will help you stay grounded and positive.

You can do this exercise either seated or standing.

• Think of someone, something or someplace you love.
• Experience the joy that accompanies thinking about that person, thing or place.
• Close your eyes. (Yes, you can do this at your desk! It only takes a few seconds).
• With your mouth closed, take a deep breath in through your nose. As you inhale, feel the breath extending down all the way to the base of your spine.
• Picture the person, thing or place. Keeping your mouth closed, release the breath slowly through your nose.
  
• Repeat this exercise three times.

This breathing exercise will help you think and see more clearly, while increasing the positive feelings to help move you through your day with ease. You can even make this a habit! Practice it whenever you feel stressed or overwhelmed.

Focused “in-sight.” How does Tiger Woods refocus after he hits the ball in the water, regain his focus after a camera goes off in the middle of his backswing, and maintain his laser-like focus to hit amazing shot after shot? He uses his breathing to ground him, his internal words to relax him and visualization of what he wants to happen. When you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed at work, or even outside of the office, you can do the following exercise to help you improve your “in-sight.”

• Give yourself a 30-second timeout. Just sit down and stop everything else.
• Take three deep breaths – in and out through your nose.
• On a piece of paper, write down what you don’t like or don’t want to continue happening.
• Now turn the paper over and write the outcome of what you do want.
• Breathe in deeply and sit in silence with your eyes closed picturing your outcome as if it already happened.

Become aware of the things that are out of focus around you, and you will help bring your vision into focus.

Affirmations for a mental edge. Affirmations are a great way to improve your thoughts and become more aware of what you want to accomplish, on and off of the golf course. They are even more useful when they are repeated often. Here is a list of ten positive affirmations. Use this list or let them inspire you to write your own!

• I have the ability to perform my work perfectly.
• I enjoy being healthy in body and mind.
• I love to feel happy in everything I do.
• I am in charge of my life.
• I am now open and receptive to all ideas.
• I have definite, deliberate prosperous thoughts.
• I give thanks for the realization of my desires and goals.
• My goals come forth with perfect timing for me.
• I have faith in myself and the people around me.
• I create positive, creative thoughts and actions to improve my life.

Optional tip: Mind power nap. Do you ever feel like tuning out the world for 10 minutes? You’ve got deadlines to meet, board meetings to prepare for and a headache that won’t go away. If you have a private office, or if you work from home, this exercise might be just right for you (but not at the risk of your job). A 10-minute power nap is the perfect antidote for a stressful day. Here’s how to do it.

• Close your office door.
• Set your watch or a 10-minute timer, so you wake up from the blissful state.
• Write down some beautiful places you’ve visited or seen pictures of.
• Write down something you’d like to accomplish that day or that week.
• Put on some soothing music.
• Close your eyes, take three deep breaths and let your mind wonder to that beautiful place in your mind.

When you awaken, you’ll be refreshed, revitalized and ready to take on the rest of your day with complete energy.

These simple tips and strategies help drive the best athletes in the world to compete at the highest level. The successful ones know how to turn negative thoughts into positive empowering ones. Now you have the know-how as well. Thoughts like, “I’ll never get this project done by the deadline! I might as well give up now!” become, “I have everything I need to get this project done on time. I look forward to the challenge!”

You have the power inside of you to make things happen and improve your mental edge in your business and your life. Awaken the “Tiger” in you and watch your success grow like his personality!

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ATTITUDE story! Interesting!

An old man lived alone in Minnesota . He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in prison.

The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation: Dear Son, I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won't be able to plant my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden because your mother always loved planting time. I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren't in prison. Love, Dad

Shortly, the old man received this telegram: 'For Heaven's sake, Dad, don't dig up the garden!! That's where I buried the GUNS!!'

At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.

Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what had happened, and asked him what to do next.

His son's reply was: 'Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad. It's the best I could do for you, from here.'

MORAL: " NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN THE WORLD, IF YOU HAVE DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING DEEP FROM YOUR HEART, YOU CAN DO IT. IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT MATTERS, NOT WHERE YOU ARE OR WHERE THE PERSON IS. "

7 Tips to great Career!

Here goes your 7 Tips to great career

- If you are solution-focused you'll be more creative.
- Reflect on and record the times you've been creative.
- Use practical things to prompt your thoughts, like shapes and colours
- Develop different techniques for doing the same job.
- Find practical ways to create your ideas and spend time making them work
- Creative ideas should be fresh, fun, feasible.
- Dare to think the unthinkable!

How can I be creative?

Being creative in the workplace doesn't necessarily mean being Picasso in the playgroup or a Day Care Da Vinci, it means thinking originally and finding innovative solutions that lead to enjoyable engagement and wider spread positive benefits. Think of times in the year when creativity is often at its peak, such as planning for festivals, birthdays or special events. At these times we are rich with suggestions and recollections of things that have stimulated our thinking as we've gone about our work.

Many people think to be creative they have to be able to draw, paint, make music or act. All these may be artistically creative, but true creativity has a much broader definition. Don't let limiting beliefs prevent you from exercising your creative spark.

Think outside the box

We've heard the term, but how can we do it?

- Give yourself quality time and space to think.
- Think in ways that are different to the usual.
- Think beyond the obvious and practical.
- Look at a solution from different perspectives.
- Use visual, auditory and kinaesthetic stimuli.
- Think solution and benefits, rather than get stuck with the problem.
- Be excited by exploring other possibilities

People who use creative approaches to problems and projects often find themselves given more varied opportunities in the workplace and creativity can be the catalyst for effective team-building and bonding.

Personal development - Unlock your Creativity

It's not just being artistic - a creative person finds solutions by emulating the approach of young children

When do you have your best ideas? Most of us do when we're away from distractions - walking the dog, taking a shower, or gazing from a train window. Turning a 'good idea' into a reality is the sign of a creative individual, and easier to achieve when we let external demands and distractions give way to inner creative ability.

Children become creative when they're given the space and opportunity to explore, experiment, imagine and construct. If they are given the right props and environment to encourage this, they create all kinds of ideas, stories, games and problem-solving approaches.

As adults we should re-kindle a childlike capacity to be creative and develop knowledge of how to turn ideas into different and stimulating ways of working and providing. This in turn can provide children with a good role model.

Steps to building Super Memory!

The Brain is made up of 2 parts - the Left which is your Logical Portion- which takes care of Numbers, sequence, logic, words, lines, lists, analysis etc. The Right side of the brain is the more creative portion- which accounts for Rhythm, colour, shapes, imagination etc.

Right from school, our teachers, our parents taught us only one thing - Stop dreaming and start doing!! We are forced to use the left more and more! As a result we end up without a balance.

Step 1:

Use Both sides of your brain - All geniuses, who have created new things, written poems, have all been people who use both sides of the brain! This is the first step towards improving your memory! Start forcing yourself to think in Non sequential manner! How? more on that later.

Step 2:

Start thinking colour (or color for our American friends). Do you remember things from your past - very happy occassions where you can visualize the dress you wore, you can "see" things in its original colours! The brain remembers Colour. Leverage that power!

Step 3:

Start thinking Pictures - Create pictures - colourful ones, ridiculous in their logic, things that you would not dare tell anyone else- but so completely delightful, that your brain enjoys itself.

Step 4:

Start creating "Links" or chains! Do you have these birthday game where a number of items are dropped off a box for you to look at and then covered again. You are expected to write down what you remember. Most people dont remember more than 5-6 things! By linking things up- using a Story for example- can help people connect things together! Use both sides of your brain- and create completely absurd, illogical, colourful stories with pictures - and try to play this game again! You will be surprised!

Step 5:

Learn the basics of Mindmapping - Mindmap is a tool that Buzan introduced- on how the brain works & stores information. It is a way of working the way the brain works and create a mindmap that uses, colours, links, pictures etc.. It will change the way you will look at the world- the way you work, the way you read, the way you remember! It has been proved time and again- and I want to introduce these 2 elements for you to consider.

Confidence: Its all in the mind

When referring to the current economic challenges, Niall Ferguson, the journalist and prolific author who specializes in financial and economic history tells us that “Fifty percent of the problem is confidence.” When I heard him say that on the BBC, I decided to further investigate by interviewing a couple of City Fund Managers and analysts. Each of the individuals I spoke to concurred with Mr. Ferguson’s take. In fact, some of them believe that it's much higher than 50%!

So, I thought to myself, if what Ferguson and other economic experts are saying about confidence is accurate, we can fix that… can’t we? A healthy self-confidence is pivotal when making any important decision. It enables us to be passionate, resolute and focused. So what happens when our confidence becomes weakened, or eroded? Or more importantly, what do we need to do when we’re able to recognise those debilitating feelings?

A lack of self-confidence is often brought on by unhelpful thoughts, thoughts that often are not verifiable. Contemporary psychologists call that kind of thinking, catastrophizing. So, if we can better manage our emotions, can we better manage ourselves in business? The answer is an unequivocal yes, of course we can. Daniel Goleman’s books on EQ (Emotional Intelligence) are perfect foils for those of you who are feeling a little less steady on your feet. Having used EQ in my personal life and my coaching practice since its inception about 20 years ago, I can attest to the positive effect it has on people. It teaches us how to manage our emotions, in effect, to transcend them. EQ is one of the most helpful ways we can prevent ourselves being at the mercy of those negative feelings.

As Steve Forbes, editor-in-chief of business magazine Forbes and former U.S Presidential candidate said in a recent BBC interview - “Emotion is your enemy.”

Only You Can Overcome Your Frustration!

The only way to deal with Frustration is to have more fun.

Frustration is nothing but certain unpleasant feelings which are created by your own mind. These could be due to unfullfilled desires, unaccomplished tasks etc.

It is impossible to enjoy yourself and be frustrated at the same time. So go out in the weekend, play with your children or have a good time with your friends. On Monday, you will be much less frustrated at work.

If your frustration concerns your relationship: take time for enjoying yourself (without forgetting your partner). You will be happier and that will have a positive effect on your relationship. If you have responsible tasks that frustrate you: make sure that you have a good time in other situations. When you get a happy feeling, your responsible task will seem much easier.

The only way to deal with Frustration is to have more self-confidence.

People who are frustrated have the feeling that their situation is to difficult to deal with. So one solution to deal with this frustration is : build more self confidence. Two bits of advice for self confidence:

1. Say your affirmations. Sit and write down what you need to believe for self confidence. For example: I am self confident. I am able to deal with this situation. I love myself and I am good. Write your own affirmations and say them twice a day.

The only way to deal with Frustration is to have more love.

Possibly your children are frustrating you. You are angry with your children, but you also feel love and you want to help them even when they do terrible things that frustrate you. If its your spouse who is frustrating you, you can still remember your love for her or him and you want to do everything to help.

When people at work are frustrating you, instead of hating them, consider loving them more. Love will heal more than you can imagine. Both in your family, your relationship and at work: have more love. Maybe you are so frustrated that you cannot feel love anymore. Then take a few minutes and sit in a chair. Imagine a star of light. Send this star of light to the person or the situation that is frustrating you. After you do this a few times you will be able to feel love again. Send your love to the person or the situation. You can be sure that you will receive it back one way or another.

So if you have to deal with frustration, try one, two or all three of these suggestions and your life will become much easier.

Steps to Self-Confidence Building

God has made you unique

The very first step in building self-confidence is to accept yourself in an unconditional way. You are human, therefore you are not perfect, so don?t dwell on what you see as flaws. Everyone has qualities that someone else does not. This is what makes us want to go out and find partners who give us love, and make us feel wanted and complete. Those great feelings would not be possible if you were perfect.

Accept yourself how you are

It will help to rid you of constant stress and worry over things that you cannot control. Do what you want! How long it has been since you last did something that you really liked, something that you enjoyed doing as a child? How long has it been since you went out for ice cream with a friend? These simple things have the power to build your self-confidence and add fulfillment to your life. Life can be very quite simple. It is easy to get caught u in the rat race of today?s world, and lose yourself in the process. It is easy to forget your purpose, what you like and what you enjoy doing. It happens to people all of the time. It is your responsibility to yourself that you get back to those simple things in life.

Find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things

You?ve heard the saying, ?birds of a feather flock together?. It is important to find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things. You will find that life is a little bit easier when you are among the people who share your interests and your feelings. There is an understanding between you, as well as an open dialogue. Good conversation and friendship are healthy and important for our minds and souls.

Set achievable goals and go for them!

Take one step at a time. Those single steps will develop into a giant gait over time. Do not overwhelm yourself, but simply do the task at hand. But set achievable goals and go for them! Don?t focus on the big picture, concentrate on the small steps. This is the only way to accomplish anything, and to avoid procrastination and depression. Even the smallest achievement will give you a sense of accomplishment that will boost your self-confidence.

Attitude and Expectations

Your attitude is the only thing in life you can control.

You can't control other people, you can't always control situations, but you can control your attitude.

You don't always get what you want, either, but you'll usually get what you expect.

So approach everything in life with an attitude of expectation!

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